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Richard de Nooy

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I Love My Wife

There, I’ve said it. And not just because our wedding anniversary is on Valentine’s Day! Yes-yes, I know what you’re thinking: clever bastard! But the truth of the matter is, we met on Valentine’s Day, sixteen years ago, at a friend’s birthday party.

It was all wrong, of course. I’d just emerged from my first mega-long-term relationship (beating my old record by 3 years, 285 days and 14 hours) and Astrid had just left her husband. She arrived at the party around midnight, carrying her three-year-old daughter in a bright-yellow duvet, which somehow perfectly matched her faux-leopard-fur coat. She caught my eye across the room and smiled as if we’d known each other for years. I later discovered she’d been laughing at my winkle-picker shoes, which she hated.

In short, the dating profiles didn’t match. And they still don’t. Astrid loves reading, but hates writing. Authors make crap husbands. Even grave diggers are better. At least they have a story to tell when they come home from work. I just sit staring at my one-eyed mistress all day, hoping that something worthwhile will materialise. And to make matters worse, I don’t do love very well. I’m not nearly as romantic as I should be. In fact, I think love is overrated. Other L’s have my preference – lust, laughter, loyalty, linguini (well, any kind of pasta really). And, yes, I’m writing about myself again, when I should be writing about her.

I haven’t bought her a present yet, but we will be spending the whole day together. Alone. Without children, I mean. Which may not sound like a big deal to you, but it is to us. Mainly because we have spent no more than twenty child-free days together in the past sixteen years. We have always had to share our love and attention with the little people. Perhaps that is why I still love her so. We’ve been taking it slow.

To honour her, I shall round off with the first five great things about her that come to mind:

- she likes dancing a lot more than gardening;
- she prefers the company of men;
- she walks like a goddess;
- she laughs till she cries;
- and there is still no one else I would rather spend the day with.

 

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  • <a href="http://tracyengelbrecht.book.co.za/" rel="nofollow">Tracy</a>
    Tracy
    February 13th, 2008 @20:18 #
     
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    Awww... sniff.

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  • Maire
    Maire
    February 13th, 2008 @23:58 #
     
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    Double awww, three sniffs and a kleenex ...

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  • <a href="http://richarddenooy.book.co.za" rel="nofollow">Richard de Nooy</a>
    Richard de Nooy
    February 15th, 2008 @11:27 #
     
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    Cynics on Book SA? I shall have to warn Ben.

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  • <a href="http://tracyengelbrecht.book.co.za/" rel="nofollow">Tracy</a>
    Tracy
    February 15th, 2008 @12:34 #
     
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    Hey, who's being cynical? I think it's lovely.

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  • <a href="http://richarddenooy.book.co.za" rel="nofollow">Richard de Nooy</a>
    Richard de Nooy
    February 15th, 2008 @13:20 #
     
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    Oops, I've been blamed of misinterpreting emotions in the past. Thanks for the sniffs.

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  • Maire
    Maire
    February 19th, 2008 @08:04 #
     
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    My sniffs were also genuine, and my Kleenex double strength.

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  • <a href="http://richarddenooy.book.co.za" rel="nofollow">Richard de Nooy</a>
    Richard de Nooy
    February 19th, 2008 @08:51 #
     
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    My sincerest apologies, Maire. I am simply unaccustomed to such emotional outbursts. I think the flatness of the Dutch landscape and the vast quantities of water are partly to blame for its inhabitants' even and diluted nature.

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  • Maire
    Maire
    February 20th, 2008 @18:51 #
     
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    Ah well, Richard, it really and truly was lovely to read 'I love my wife'. Nothing even or diluted about it!

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